The Two Month Mark

What is it about the two month mark in a relationship that things get weird? Its an awkward unknown type of weird. Leading up to the two month mark, he's doing everything right, you are feeling great about things and then all of a sudden either he pulls away a little or you feel insecure and there is this weird tension. At least that seems to be what happens to me. This is a very bad cycle because when the man pulls away to test the waters or test the girl, the girl has two choices either continue acting the same, which could push him away or pull away herself with the hopes he will then do all the work again. Dating is a dance and for the first few months of this relationship, I was relieved that there were no games and everything was so easy. Now, I am questioning if my being so available is leaving him to lose interest. Maybe I should have followed "The Rules" and only hung out three days a week instead of 5!

DTR and What it means

So two weeks in Animal asked if I wanted to DTR...What is DTR you ask? I did too. Apparently it must have been on Oprah or something but DTR means Defining the Relationship. I laughed and thought, Its only been two weeks and we havent even consummated the relationship. So I said I wasn't seeing anyone else but I didn't think we should rush to put labels on things. I learned my lesson before and rushing into things usually ends up bad.

So two months later i was wondering why he hadn't asked me again about being his girlfriend I mean we had spent almost every day/night together for two months. Finally I had to bring up the DTR and he said he felt so awkward about how I had responded the first time that he didn't want to ask. good thing I brought it up I guess. Although, I like the version in my head where he BEGS me to be his girlfriend better. lol.

So now what I officially have a BF am I still able to write a blog called Single Girl LA? uhh its only been 7 weeks...and I feel like this is all part of the process of being single and having to stress about if someones conservative Jewish parents are going to accept you etc. Anyway Ill keep writing. I mean to still share crazy dating stories as well.

Here is an assessment tool I found online...if anything its interesting and amusing

According to the test on the link above, Animal and I have more Connection than Clarity in the relationship right now. But I think that's okay for where we are at. I'm not trying to be all SJP in Sex in the City here. I'm not going to over analyze everything! Hopefully!

I did want to mention that I had written a list of what I wanted in a husband on my vision board and put the paper away in a book months ago and just found it and Animal fits everything on my list...maybe I did man-a-fest him haha now I really sound crazy but hey whatever works!

XO
SG

Mail Call

Dear SG,

"I am single girl looking to move to LA
Just wondering how the dating scene is for single girl like me, mid twenties and working in finance...not modeling or acting. I don't want to date would-be actors. I just want to date normal guys. Do they exist in LA. Are there any men that are smart, nice looking and have a career and still single? I'm good looking, but not a model so I am wondering if the competition for singles is too much. I don't want to have to compete against beauty queens. thanks for your advice."

         Dear Not a Model,
         Most of my friends in LA are like you, Mid 20s, successful and cute! They all want to date working non-actors, nice, cute men. Don't be discouraged, but I'm not sure where you meet these men and exactly how many live in LA. I'm told the best place to meet normal guys is Steakhouses and the Beach? Went to BOA last Saturday. There were a lot of men there and a lot of hot girls in short dresses too. Bottom line is yes, there are a ton of hot girls in LA all looking for the same kind of guy as you. I guess you should not move anywhere for the dating potential, move here because you love LA and trust in Fate!

Optimistically Yours,
SG

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