DTR and What it means

So two weeks in Animal asked if I wanted to DTR...What is DTR you ask? I did too. Apparently it must have been on Oprah or something but DTR means Defining the Relationship. I laughed and thought, Its only been two weeks and we havent even consummated the relationship. So I said I wasn't seeing anyone else but I didn't think we should rush to put labels on things. I learned my lesson before and rushing into things usually ends up bad.

So two months later i was wondering why he hadn't asked me again about being his girlfriend I mean we had spent almost every day/night together for two months. Finally I had to bring up the DTR and he said he felt so awkward about how I had responded the first time that he didn't want to ask. good thing I brought it up I guess. Although, I like the version in my head where he BEGS me to be his girlfriend better. lol.

So now what I officially have a BF am I still able to write a blog called Single Girl LA? uhh its only been 7 weeks...and I feel like this is all part of the process of being single and having to stress about if someones conservative Jewish parents are going to accept you etc. Anyway Ill keep writing. I mean to still share crazy dating stories as well.

Here is an assessment tool I found online...if anything its interesting and amusing

According to the test on the link above, Animal and I have more Connection than Clarity in the relationship right now. But I think that's okay for where we are at. I'm not trying to be all SJP in Sex in the City here. I'm not going to over analyze everything! Hopefully!

I did want to mention that I had written a list of what I wanted in a husband on my vision board and put the paper away in a book months ago and just found it and Animal fits everything on my list...maybe I did man-a-fest him haha now I really sound crazy but hey whatever works!

XO
SG

5 am Ramboling about feelings...

Officially 8 more days until my 29th Birthday and all of a sudden I feel like a new person. I don't know what exactly was the trigger but I have changed in the last few days. A new calm has fallen over me. Its hard to put into writing exactly how I have changed or even what the trigger was. I just feel like I can do what ever I want, whenever.  I'm not sure what I was waiting for before. I realize now that before this Epiphany I was feeling lonely and disconnected. My family is far and a lot of my friendships have fallen apart. Not that I have done anything to lose friends I have been losing the connection between myself and a lot of the people I had been hanging out with in the past and after a recent break up I had been feeling lonely and disconnected. All of a sudden I am okay with having space for new people to enter my life and not in a rush to fill that space with just anyone.  I love the feeling of that space in my life and the idea now that I have room and time for other people and the excitement of the possibilities of people that may enter is amazing. I realize that many of these stale friendships are been based upon me giving to the relationship and getting little in return. Although it hurts to lose a relationship of any kind, once you get past that its kind of exciting to realize what the potential is for new people and things to enter your life. I don't feel in a rush anymore to fill these space, but a calm of less stress.  I truly feel happy

I went to a friends engagement party and saw some girls that I used to hang out with a lot. I had been hurt and feeling left out like a high-schooler that is being ousted from her group of the popular kids for no reason. At first it hurt and then at this party I realized something. I had nothing in common with these people anymore. As one of my 70 something year old clients explained to me, I have found my bravado. I really am my own person and I don't feel the need to hang out in big groups of 17 women at a time, as I did when I was younger.  As she put it, "There are not many people who can rock a skin tight, Hot pink dress with six inch heels (yes, they make me look 6'2") and feel completely in their own."

I have been hanging out with some new amazing people, I am started a new workout class in the mornings with a friend and...

I am buying myself a new car for my birthday. I have wanted a hot convertible for many years now. It fits my personality. I have been having a moral conflict over buying myself a new car for a couple years now. I don't NEED one. I mean, I have a 2002 Toyota Rav4 with many dents and a bike rack. Its free basically because I have paid it off and it runs like a gem.  Financially, I had been telling myself that it makes sense to keep this car as long as possible and use my money to pay off other school loans, bills etc. Its completely vain to buy a convertible but I have had my car for 8 years now and loath every time I have to pick someone up in my car or valet. Its just embarrassing.  I dont think the car fits my personality at all. I dont believe that your car is an extension of yourself or anything like that. Im just being Shallow, I know, but I just want a hot, sexy car to zoom around town in. Is that so aweful?  So, I am going to take the plunge, leasing a new car with a big monthly payment maynot be financially the most sound decision I have ever made but it sure will be fun! I just hope the purchasing high lasts!  Okay well that probably enough of my ramboling for tonight its 5:38am and I hope I have not bored you all to death.

The World is BACKWARDS

This am while perusing twitter I came across this link to:

5 dating things men hate

"A charming, romantic, sexy, and sophisticated man completely sweeps you off your feet. Now the only thing you have to do is not blow it. Sounds easy enough right? Wrong! Many women completely sabotage any chance with the right man because they are unaware of what men hate. So here it is plain and simple. These are the things that guys find absolutely annoying, but will be reluctant to tell you."

http://www.examiner.com/x-42057-Seattle-Dating-Advice-Examiner~y2010m6d10-5-dating-things-men-hate"
 
I want to know where these perfect "Charming, romantic, sexy and sophisticated" men are. I am here to tell you ladies, if you find this guy who is perfect for you, you won't have to worry about "blowing it". I can honestly say with 100 percent honesty that I have never "Blown a relationship". Ether it works or doesn't but this isn't a fear. Its funny that a guy wrote this! Id like to talk to his ex.

Who is Single girl...and Introduction into the hell that is dating in LA

Welcome to my blog. To preface, I am not looking for sympathy, if only to make other girls out there feel like they are not alone and if you can't relate you will at least be really thankful to not be me! I think the girls I work with are either sick of hearing my stories every morning-after or they think I'm a real piece of work. Either way, they persuaded me to archive my experiences in dating in this blog. Maybe it will bring me clarity of life?

I think its important before you read further that you have a frame of reference about me. I am not some homely, broke, baby momma trying to find some rich old man to take care of me. I own my own business, I'm financial independent. I'm probably an LA 7 and a 9 in most other places in the country looks wise. I don't know, its hard to rate yourself. I also know about the RULES, He's Just Not That Into Me, Why Men Love Bitches, Flirt Texting and every other book out there that I have purchased to try and shed some light on the question of why I just can not find a successful, nice, handsome, fun guy. I mean, I think I'm the total package I just want to meet a good match for me. Why god, why?

So I think I am a professional dater. I get lots of dates. Set ups, Online dating, people I meet out. I even called to inquire about a match maker but that was a little out of my budget. Patty wanted 10gs to match me with millionaires. I don't really need a millionaire just a good job and some ambition is a real turn on. I have nicknamed my dates to protect them in the event they may change!? Read on to hear about  Diva Mega Mix, FiveSix,  TheTrader, MR.Confidence, MR. "I think you've got this one", and Dad?, to name a few!