Its been a couple of weeks of me trying to meet men the "natural" way and I pretty much gave up. I met a shorty chubby guy in my building that I actually clicked with but soon found out that he pretty much just wants a convenient hook up. He's fun to tease and company if I'm really bored but that's about it. I just am too shy to meet people in a casual way.
So, I think I may try Match.Com one last time. This time with a game plan in mind! Here's my plan: 2 weeks, 10 dates. Only coffee or day dates...that way its short and no alcohol is involved. I'm not giving anyone the benefit of a doubt. Out of those ten dates I will pick the best to go on a second date with. As a client, who just met her husband one Match, explained its a numbers thing. You cant argue with success right?
xo
SG
Showing posts with label Online Dating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Online Dating. Show all posts
Friday, July 9, 2010
Thursday, June 17, 2010
OMG Back to Facebook
Okay, So I know that I have sworn off online dating and letting strangers add me on facebook. But....This cute guy just requested me on facebook. We don't know each other, but his name is Guisseppe and he is Italian and lives here. Last year I went to a psychic that my client was raving about. It was really weird because she knew everything about my boyfriend at the time, that was not present at the reading, but nothing she said about me seemed to be too accurate. One of the things I put in my notes that she told me was I would meet an Italian guy by this same name! haha so I have to respond to his email, Right?! I'm such a piece of work. Ill let you all know how this goes :)
Monday, June 14, 2010
Real Life Emails from Online dating...Good, Bad, Hillarious
These are some of my favorite first messages while online dating. They are not meant to discourage, only entertain! I have deleted the screen names because most of these men are probably still online dating on several sites. I have not edited the words, spelling or grammar so some are a little harder to read. Enjoy xo SG
“You have amazing smile that would light up any room. Would you be open to getting to know a sweet tall Black man ;) What's your name ??? “
-100-year-old man
Woodland Hills- CA - US
Seeks women 18-30
RE: Hey sweetie!
“Hi Sweetie,
I ran into a hot friend of mine at coffee bean today. I think you and him will connect ;)
He is a tall, dark, handsome and A DOCTOR! he used to date a colombian actress but is single now.
You owe me a hunk for this ;)
Ciao,
TheTrendyR”
(I actually Picked up a gay guy)
“So decided to give this a try since can get really busy with work, gym, laundry :0) (my friend did PR for Jersey Shore and I picked that up!). So I set up my little profile a few days ago and people responded but didn't pay so much attention to that. Liked your pictures and what you wrote though :) Now I think my pics suck! And mostly because my favorite pictures have other people in them and didnt want to put that all out there!! My main one realized have guiness pajama bottoms on! Anyway, thanks ;) Little something about me, used to be an attorney but began hating it. Plus everyone hates lawyers. Moved over to financial field at one of the big investment houses right BEFORE the crash. Now everyone hates us again! But I promise I really am a nice guy!! Well, hope this finds you well and hear back from you if you like my (few) pictures and profile!”
35-year-old man
Woodland Hills- CA – US
Seeks women 21-32
“Seeking Someone Positive
Obviously your profile caught my eye and I wanted to see if there was a connection. It appears that we have a lot in common and I believe I fit your profile. Contact me when you get a chance as I would like to see if there is a chance that we can progress things forward :) “
“RE: Hey sweetie!
I may :)
I met a hot Italian designer at whole foods last night. He is supposed to take to Sushi Nobu tmrw nite. I'll let you know how it goes.”
-TheTrendyR
“'I’m sure youve heard every cliche and if it works for the average girl, then Im pretty sure it wouldnt be much of an icebreaker for you.... So let me just introduce myself. So here goes.... My name is Rodrigo. Why am I writing you? Because like myself we might be trying to meet people out of our normal circle. There's a little bit of a romantic notion in that thought. I dont know if we will ever meet but Im sure it would be fun if we do. I love Trader Joes and love to cook but Im not the best. So tips on fun restaurants will be well appreciated. :^) I'm in LA weekends exploring. I like tennis although I may not be the best and know better to never to try to help anyone with their game. Best to just have fun. If your asking then the answer is, Yes I like to Travel... I appreciate all cultures and love the differences. Being local to Redondo is super however I like to find places that maybe strange or shiny, an adventure of sorts. I am looking for a person that can talk intelligently enough to know that kindess is the highest and most formal education that anyone can have. Best Regards, Rodrigo xxx-xxx-xxxxx”
45-year-old man
El Nido- CA - US
Seeks women 18-50
“I like u'r picture, and i like what u say, and I am interested to know more about u. about me I work a lot, which is why I'm trying this. In general I like doing things that are relaxing most of the week. And /, or go extrem like a snowboarding wknd, And go to my boxing once or twice a week. I like going out for drinks. I skip the LA club scene this days. I'm looking for someone new and exiting cool and fun pearson to b with and hang out with...and travel with . I belive i have many of the qualityies u'r looking for in a man. hope to hear back from u”
39-year-old man
Encino- CA - US
Seeks women 24-35
(NO, I didn’t edit the grammar, this is exactly as sent)
“Your profile says you like to play at the beach. Do you play volleyball down in Manhattan Beach? That's not far from where I play in Hermosa. Well, I liked what you had to say in your profile and I definitely understand having to keep up with work and a busy social schedule. My calendar is pretty packed these days. I've signed up for a few classes on weekday evenings, to try some new things. Anyway, I hope the week's going well for you. Just a couple of days till the weekend:)
Talk to you soon,
P
P.S. I'm a pretty good Texas Hold'Em player. Do you play?”
33-year-old man
Redondo Beach, CA, US
Seeks women 23-32
Active within 24 hours
“Subject: RE: RE: ITS MIKE-HOW ARE YOU
Nice surprise to see a happy pretty face.. how's match going? leave your number if you want to talk or here's mine xxx-xxx-xxxx”
33-year-old man
Mission Viejo, CA, US
“ITS MIKE--
don't be shy..:)”
33-year-old man
Mission Viejo, CA, US
Date received: April 3, 2009
“ITS MIKE--
Like your style & smile :) e-mail me if interested”
33-year-old man
Mission Viejo, CA, US
“Subject: hi
Hi. My name is Michael. How are you doing? I would like to invite you to communicate with me. :)”
Subject: Dear Friend
“Dear Friend,
A very good day to you over there, How is life treating you and your family? My name's are Ojo Uyi Sunny, I am 31 by age lives in thessaloniki in Greece my nationality is nigeria, I saw your request on onlinedatingsite.com and i am interested in on your propsal.
Here is my mobile number +30694831xxxx you can call me if interested or send me a return email.
Do have a wonderful day,
Yours Faithfully,”
31-year-old man
Thessaloníki (salonika), , Greece
Seeks women 18-45
“You have amazing smile that would light up any room. Would you be open to getting to know a sweet tall Black man ;) What's your name ??? “
-100-year-old man
Woodland Hills- CA - US
Seeks women 18-30
RE: Hey sweetie!
“Hi Sweetie,
I ran into a hot friend of mine at coffee bean today. I think you and him will connect ;)
He is a tall, dark, handsome and A DOCTOR! he used to date a colombian actress but is single now.
You owe me a hunk for this ;)
Ciao,
TheTrendyR”
(I actually Picked up a gay guy)
“So decided to give this a try since can get really busy with work, gym, laundry :0) (my friend did PR for Jersey Shore and I picked that up!). So I set up my little profile a few days ago and people responded but didn't pay so much attention to that. Liked your pictures and what you wrote though :) Now I think my pics suck! And mostly because my favorite pictures have other people in them and didnt want to put that all out there!! My main one realized have guiness pajama bottoms on! Anyway, thanks ;) Little something about me, used to be an attorney but began hating it. Plus everyone hates lawyers. Moved over to financial field at one of the big investment houses right BEFORE the crash. Now everyone hates us again! But I promise I really am a nice guy!! Well, hope this finds you well and hear back from you if you like my (few) pictures and profile!”
35-year-old man
Woodland Hills- CA – US
Seeks women 21-32
“Seeking Someone Positive
Obviously your profile caught my eye and I wanted to see if there was a connection. It appears that we have a lot in common and I believe I fit your profile. Contact me when you get a chance as I would like to see if there is a chance that we can progress things forward :) “
“RE: Hey sweetie!
I may :)
I met a hot Italian designer at whole foods last night. He is supposed to take to Sushi Nobu tmrw nite. I'll let you know how it goes.”
-TheTrendyR
“'I’m sure youve heard every cliche and if it works for the average girl, then Im pretty sure it wouldnt be much of an icebreaker for you.... So let me just introduce myself. So here goes.... My name is Rodrigo. Why am I writing you? Because like myself we might be trying to meet people out of our normal circle. There's a little bit of a romantic notion in that thought. I dont know if we will ever meet but Im sure it would be fun if we do. I love Trader Joes and love to cook but Im not the best. So tips on fun restaurants will be well appreciated. :^) I'm in LA weekends exploring. I like tennis although I may not be the best and know better to never to try to help anyone with their game. Best to just have fun. If your asking then the answer is, Yes I like to Travel... I appreciate all cultures and love the differences. Being local to Redondo is super however I like to find places that maybe strange or shiny, an adventure of sorts. I am looking for a person that can talk intelligently enough to know that kindess is the highest and most formal education that anyone can have. Best Regards, Rodrigo xxx-xxx-xxxxx”
45-year-old man
El Nido- CA - US
Seeks women 18-50
“I like u'r picture, and i like what u say, and I am interested to know more about u. about me I work a lot, which is why I'm trying this. In general I like doing things that are relaxing most of the week. And /, or go extrem like a snowboarding wknd, And go to my boxing once or twice a week. I like going out for drinks. I skip the LA club scene this days. I'm looking for someone new and exiting cool and fun pearson to b with and hang out with...and travel with . I belive i have many of the qualityies u'r looking for in a man. hope to hear back from u”
39-year-old man
Encino- CA - US
Seeks women 24-35
(NO, I didn’t edit the grammar, this is exactly as sent)
“Your profile says you like to play at the beach. Do you play volleyball down in Manhattan Beach? That's not far from where I play in Hermosa. Well, I liked what you had to say in your profile and I definitely understand having to keep up with work and a busy social schedule. My calendar is pretty packed these days. I've signed up for a few classes on weekday evenings, to try some new things. Anyway, I hope the week's going well for you. Just a couple of days till the weekend:)
Talk to you soon,
P
P.S. I'm a pretty good Texas Hold'Em player. Do you play?”
33-year-old man
Redondo Beach, CA, US
Seeks women 23-32
Active within 24 hours
“Subject: RE: RE: ITS MIKE-HOW ARE YOU
Nice surprise to see a happy pretty face.. how's match going? leave your number if you want to talk or here's mine xxx-xxx-xxxx”
33-year-old man
Mission Viejo, CA, US
“ITS MIKE--
don't be shy..:)”
33-year-old man
Mission Viejo, CA, US
Date received: April 3, 2009
“ITS MIKE--
Like your style & smile :) e-mail me if interested”
33-year-old man
Mission Viejo, CA, US
“Subject: hi
Hi. My name is Michael. How are you doing? I would like to invite you to communicate with me. :)”
Subject: Dear Friend
“Dear Friend,
A very good day to you over there, How is life treating you and your family? My name's are Ojo Uyi Sunny, I am 31 by age lives in thessaloniki in Greece my nationality is nigeria, I saw your request on onlinedatingsite.com and i am interested in on your propsal.
Here is my mobile number +30694831xxxx you can call me if interested or send me a return email.
Do have a wonderful day,
Yours Faithfully,”
31-year-old man
Thessaloníki (salonika), , Greece
Seeks women 18-45
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Online dating...Should I do it Single Girl?
Wow, newly being single (well...again) has really taken a toll on me. In the name of research for this awesome blog and because I have a hard time saying "no" to any thing fun I have been going out wayyyy too much! For me going out usually involves alcohol. Not that I am an alcoholic or even really enjoy drinking so much, for some reason its just what I do when out at a club/bar/lounge, I mean what else do you do when you go to these places? Even most dates involve wine or cocktails. So, I have been going out with my hot Blondie friends and living it up...Now its Saturday night and I cant even think about going out again...at least until tomorrow.
In general I prefer to be at home most nights of the week, cooking, watching a movie, cuddling on the couch. This is probably how online dating got started. You can only go out boozing soo often. Of course I love going out and having fun with my friends, but if the purpose is meeting potential dates, you can't help but think of the wasted money, time spent getting ready to go out (my favorite part of the night), and energy if the night doesn't produce any promising specimen. Of course shopping through an online catalog in your pjs is soo much easier...OR IS IT?
Friends and clients are always asking me my opinions about online dating...should they try it? I have tried Eharmony, Match.Com (twice) and Jdate, each for short periods of maybe a two or three months at a time, through out my 7 years of living in Los Angeles. So my input is really not a do it or don't but know what to expect and make sure you are prepared for the time commitment.
First of all, I don't know how many times I have heard that so and so's sister, mother, brother found their soul mate or spouse on online dating. I am sure it happens...hey my own mom met her husband on Yahoo Personals and I think they are truly soul mates. For me, online dating is a job. Sure, first its all very exciting when your inbox is filled with 1000 emails from mystery men. This is so overwhelming and flattering. So you read as few as possible, weeding out anyone that doen't fit your "criteria" and get down to a handful that are worth writing back to or gasp... "winking" back at. Basically this process involves inspecting photos and skimming a profile (They all write pretty much the same things). After writing back and fourth with your potential suitors you will eventually decide to meet a few.
Ladies, make sure you meet for a drink or coffee. DO NOT commit yourself for an entire meal! This is a meet and greet basically to see if there is any chemistry in person and to make sure the other person is actually who they say they are. I will get into horror stories at another time. So you get cute, go to chosen location to meet and make small talk. If its a success you can now do a dinner. The problem is you will end up having dates 3 or 4 days a week if you end up going on dates with some of these people and its exhausting and really how can you know if you like someone if you are juggling so many. I get in this situation because with each contact you get some momentum going and its kind of hard to tell someone you are booked with dates for the next two weeks. So you squeeze them in, sometimes bumping out less-desirables. Then you find one you start to like, so you date them and the others fall by the wayside. You spend two months with this person they seem like the man of your dreams and then one day you realize, that maybe you didn't know them that well after all and wonder if its too late to call back date number 127. Ahhh I am boycotting online dating right now but I wrote up a quick list of pros and cons for those considering it.
Pros to Online Dating
-There is always someone waiting to take you out, so you don't get overly invested in one person at the beginning
-Its an easy way to come up with potential dates
-You get a quick list of the person's stats (If they are honest)
-Its fun to check your email
-The Mystery can be fun and exciting
-After you are dating for a while you can see if they are still logging in and talking to others
Cons To Online dating
-Riskier, because you have no common connection
-You do not know if there is chemistry until you have invested a bit of time before meeting
-It takes a lot of time to weed out the crazies
-Someone you know may see you on there (ie an ex or co worker)
-Money and time spent looking cute for a ?
-Dealing with turds
-After you are dating for a while you can see if they are still logging in and talking to others
-After you are dating a while they can see if you are still logging in
-It feels desperate
-When dating someone and you are asked where you met...its not a great story
In general I prefer to be at home most nights of the week, cooking, watching a movie, cuddling on the couch. This is probably how online dating got started. You can only go out boozing soo often. Of course I love going out and having fun with my friends, but if the purpose is meeting potential dates, you can't help but think of the wasted money, time spent getting ready to go out (my favorite part of the night), and energy if the night doesn't produce any promising specimen. Of course shopping through an online catalog in your pjs is soo much easier...OR IS IT?
Friends and clients are always asking me my opinions about online dating...should they try it? I have tried Eharmony, Match.Com (twice) and Jdate, each for short periods of maybe a two or three months at a time, through out my 7 years of living in Los Angeles. So my input is really not a do it or don't but know what to expect and make sure you are prepared for the time commitment.
First of all, I don't know how many times I have heard that so and so's sister, mother, brother found their soul mate or spouse on online dating. I am sure it happens...hey my own mom met her husband on Yahoo Personals and I think they are truly soul mates. For me, online dating is a job. Sure, first its all very exciting when your inbox is filled with 1000 emails from mystery men. This is so overwhelming and flattering. So you read as few as possible, weeding out anyone that doen't fit your "criteria" and get down to a handful that are worth writing back to or gasp... "winking" back at. Basically this process involves inspecting photos and skimming a profile (They all write pretty much the same things). After writing back and fourth with your potential suitors you will eventually decide to meet a few.
Ladies, make sure you meet for a drink or coffee. DO NOT commit yourself for an entire meal! This is a meet and greet basically to see if there is any chemistry in person and to make sure the other person is actually who they say they are. I will get into horror stories at another time. So you get cute, go to chosen location to meet and make small talk. If its a success you can now do a dinner. The problem is you will end up having dates 3 or 4 days a week if you end up going on dates with some of these people and its exhausting and really how can you know if you like someone if you are juggling so many. I get in this situation because with each contact you get some momentum going and its kind of hard to tell someone you are booked with dates for the next two weeks. So you squeeze them in, sometimes bumping out less-desirables. Then you find one you start to like, so you date them and the others fall by the wayside. You spend two months with this person they seem like the man of your dreams and then one day you realize, that maybe you didn't know them that well after all and wonder if its too late to call back date number 127. Ahhh I am boycotting online dating right now but I wrote up a quick list of pros and cons for those considering it.
Pros to Online Dating
-There is always someone waiting to take you out, so you don't get overly invested in one person at the beginning
-Its an easy way to come up with potential dates
-You get a quick list of the person's stats (If they are honest)
-Its fun to check your email
-The Mystery can be fun and exciting
-After you are dating for a while you can see if they are still logging in and talking to others
Cons To Online dating
-Riskier, because you have no common connection
-You do not know if there is chemistry until you have invested a bit of time before meeting
-It takes a lot of time to weed out the crazies
-Someone you know may see you on there (ie an ex or co worker)
-Money and time spent looking cute for a ?
-Dealing with turds
-After you are dating for a while you can see if they are still logging in and talking to others
-After you are dating a while they can see if you are still logging in
-It feels desperate
-When dating someone and you are asked where you met...its not a great story
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Men: a few tips while creating your online dating profile.
My first pet peeve on Men's online dating profiles is when they have several pictures of themselves posed with other women...its almost as if they are trying to say "Hey women like me, see?!". Why would I want to see you in pictures with tons of other women. We, as women, are immediately going to judge you by the type of women you are with, and what is the point? If the pictures is just that fabulous of you, men, just crop yourself out.
http://www.match.com/
Don't lie, don't lie about your age, or anything else. There is no strategy here. Its not like if a woman doesn't want to date an old guy, you are going to win her over by letting her get to know your personality via email first, that when you meet in person she will excuse your lying and age!
Back to the photo thing, don't use pictures from 1980. We will figure it out when we finally meet. Why not know if we are attracted to you in this decade?
Blurry Pictures, Black and whites, Sunglass-shots, they all just look sketchy.
Shirt off pics. Okay maybe one if you are doing some sort of sport or its a beach scene. I'm just speaking for my self here, but I think its a little creepy when your main profile pic is you, half naked, taking a shot of yourself from your blackberry in a mirror. Its much better to put up real-life shots. If you have no real photos, then pay someone one to take it for you. Just a suggestion.
Don't just say what you think women want to hear. I think 99% of online profiles state all or some of the following. Its just unoriginal sounding:
I am very Close to my family
I love to travel
I have a picture up of me holding a baby
I enjoy wine tasting
I'm looking to find "The one"
I am new to Match.com (even though I saw your profile up last year after my last breakup)
I'm not sure about the online dating thing, but thought I would give it a try
I am funny/trying to be funny/want to date someone who is funny
I'm spontaneous
Hope my tips help!
XO
SG
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