The Two Month Mark

What is it about the two month mark in a relationship that things get weird? Its an awkward unknown type of weird. Leading up to the two month mark, he's doing everything right, you are feeling great about things and then all of a sudden either he pulls away a little or you feel insecure and there is this weird tension. At least that seems to be what happens to me. This is a very bad cycle because when the man pulls away to test the waters or test the girl, the girl has two choices either continue acting the same, which could push him away or pull away herself with the hopes he will then do all the work again. Dating is a dance and for the first few months of this relationship, I was relieved that there were no games and everything was so easy. Now, I am questioning if my being so available is leaving him to lose interest. Maybe I should have followed "The Rules" and only hung out three days a week instead of 5!

DTR and What it means

So two weeks in Animal asked if I wanted to DTR...What is DTR you ask? I did too. Apparently it must have been on Oprah or something but DTR means Defining the Relationship. I laughed and thought, Its only been two weeks and we havent even consummated the relationship. So I said I wasn't seeing anyone else but I didn't think we should rush to put labels on things. I learned my lesson before and rushing into things usually ends up bad.

So two months later i was wondering why he hadn't asked me again about being his girlfriend I mean we had spent almost every day/night together for two months. Finally I had to bring up the DTR and he said he felt so awkward about how I had responded the first time that he didn't want to ask. good thing I brought it up I guess. Although, I like the version in my head where he BEGS me to be his girlfriend better. lol.

So now what I officially have a BF am I still able to write a blog called Single Girl LA? uhh its only been 7 weeks...and I feel like this is all part of the process of being single and having to stress about if someones conservative Jewish parents are going to accept you etc. Anyway Ill keep writing. I mean to still share crazy dating stories as well.

Here is an assessment tool I found online...if anything its interesting and amusing

According to the test on the link above, Animal and I have more Connection than Clarity in the relationship right now. But I think that's okay for where we are at. I'm not trying to be all SJP in Sex in the City here. I'm not going to over analyze everything! Hopefully!

I did want to mention that I had written a list of what I wanted in a husband on my vision board and put the paper away in a book months ago and just found it and Animal fits everything on my list...maybe I did man-a-fest him haha now I really sound crazy but hey whatever works!

XO
SG

The World is BACKWARDS

This am while perusing twitter I came across this link to:

5 dating things men hate

"A charming, romantic, sexy, and sophisticated man completely sweeps you off your feet. Now the only thing you have to do is not blow it. Sounds easy enough right? Wrong! Many women completely sabotage any chance with the right man because they are unaware of what men hate. So here it is plain and simple. These are the things that guys find absolutely annoying, but will be reluctant to tell you."

http://www.examiner.com/x-42057-Seattle-Dating-Advice-Examiner~y2010m6d10-5-dating-things-men-hate"
 
I want to know where these perfect "Charming, romantic, sexy and sophisticated" men are. I am here to tell you ladies, if you find this guy who is perfect for you, you won't have to worry about "blowing it". I can honestly say with 100 percent honesty that I have never "Blown a relationship". Ether it works or doesn't but this isn't a fear. Its funny that a guy wrote this! Id like to talk to his ex.

Men: a few tips while creating your online dating profile.

My first pet peeve on Men's online dating profiles is when they have several pictures of themselves posed with other women...its almost as if they are trying to say "Hey women like me, see?!". Why would I want to see you in pictures with tons of other women. We, as women, are immediately going to judge you by the type of women you are with, and what is the point? If the pictures is just that fabulous of you, men, just crop yourself out.



http://www.match.com/


Don't lie, don't lie about your age, or anything else. There is no strategy here. Its not like if a woman doesn't want to date an old guy, you are going to win her over by letting her get to know your personality via email first, that when you meet in person she will excuse your lying and age!


Back to the photo thing, don't use pictures from 1980. We will figure it out when we finally meet. Why not know if we are attracted to you in this decade?


Blurry Pictures, Black and whites, Sunglass-shots, they all just look sketchy.


Shirt off pics. Okay maybe one if you are doing some sort of sport or its a beach scene. I'm just speaking for my self here, but I think its a little creepy when your main profile pic is you, half naked, taking a shot of yourself from your blackberry in a mirror.  Its much better to put up real-life shots. If you have no real photos, then pay someone one to take it for you. Just a suggestion.


Don't just say what you think women want to hear. I think 99% of online profiles state all or some of the following. Its just unoriginal sounding:


I am very Close to my family

I love to travel

I have a picture up of me holding a baby

I enjoy wine tasting

I'm looking to find "The one"

I am new to Match.com (even though I saw your profile up last year after my last breakup)

I'm not sure about the online dating thing, but thought I would give it a try

I am funny/trying to be funny/want to date someone who is funny

I'm spontaneous


Hope my tips help!

XO
SG