5 am Ramboling about feelings...

Officially 8 more days until my 29th Birthday and all of a sudden I feel like a new person. I don't know what exactly was the trigger but I have changed in the last few days. A new calm has fallen over me. Its hard to put into writing exactly how I have changed or even what the trigger was. I just feel like I can do what ever I want, whenever.  I'm not sure what I was waiting for before. I realize now that before this Epiphany I was feeling lonely and disconnected. My family is far and a lot of my friendships have fallen apart. Not that I have done anything to lose friends I have been losing the connection between myself and a lot of the people I had been hanging out with in the past and after a recent break up I had been feeling lonely and disconnected. All of a sudden I am okay with having space for new people to enter my life and not in a rush to fill that space with just anyone.  I love the feeling of that space in my life and the idea now that I have room and time for other people and the excitement of the possibilities of people that may enter is amazing. I realize that many of these stale friendships are been based upon me giving to the relationship and getting little in return. Although it hurts to lose a relationship of any kind, once you get past that its kind of exciting to realize what the potential is for new people and things to enter your life. I don't feel in a rush anymore to fill these space, but a calm of less stress.  I truly feel happy

I went to a friends engagement party and saw some girls that I used to hang out with a lot. I had been hurt and feeling left out like a high-schooler that is being ousted from her group of the popular kids for no reason. At first it hurt and then at this party I realized something. I had nothing in common with these people anymore. As one of my 70 something year old clients explained to me, I have found my bravado. I really am my own person and I don't feel the need to hang out in big groups of 17 women at a time, as I did when I was younger.  As she put it, "There are not many people who can rock a skin tight, Hot pink dress with six inch heels (yes, they make me look 6'2") and feel completely in their own."

I have been hanging out with some new amazing people, I am started a new workout class in the mornings with a friend and...

I am buying myself a new car for my birthday. I have wanted a hot convertible for many years now. It fits my personality. I have been having a moral conflict over buying myself a new car for a couple years now. I don't NEED one. I mean, I have a 2002 Toyota Rav4 with many dents and a bike rack. Its free basically because I have paid it off and it runs like a gem.  Financially, I had been telling myself that it makes sense to keep this car as long as possible and use my money to pay off other school loans, bills etc. Its completely vain to buy a convertible but I have had my car for 8 years now and loath every time I have to pick someone up in my car or valet. Its just embarrassing.  I dont think the car fits my personality at all. I dont believe that your car is an extension of yourself or anything like that. Im just being Shallow, I know, but I just want a hot, sexy car to zoom around town in. Is that so aweful?  So, I am going to take the plunge, leasing a new car with a big monthly payment maynot be financially the most sound decision I have ever made but it sure will be fun! I just hope the purchasing high lasts!  Okay well that probably enough of my ramboling for tonight its 5:38am and I hope I have not bored you all to death.

OMG Back to Facebook

Okay, So I know that I have sworn off online dating and letting strangers add me on facebook. But....This cute guy just requested me on facebook. We don't know each other, but his name is Guisseppe and he is Italian  and lives here. Last year I went to a psychic that my client was raving about. It was really weird because she knew everything about my boyfriend at the time, that was not present at the reading, but nothing she said about me seemed to be too accurate. One of the things I put in my notes that she told me was I would meet an Italian guy by this same name! haha so I have to respond to his email, Right?! I'm such a piece of work. Ill let you all know how this goes :)

The World is BACKWARDS

This am while perusing twitter I came across this link to:

5 dating things men hate

"A charming, romantic, sexy, and sophisticated man completely sweeps you off your feet. Now the only thing you have to do is not blow it. Sounds easy enough right? Wrong! Many women completely sabotage any chance with the right man because they are unaware of what men hate. So here it is plain and simple. These are the things that guys find absolutely annoying, but will be reluctant to tell you."

http://www.examiner.com/x-42057-Seattle-Dating-Advice-Examiner~y2010m6d10-5-dating-things-men-hate"
 
I want to know where these perfect "Charming, romantic, sexy and sophisticated" men are. I am here to tell you ladies, if you find this guy who is perfect for you, you won't have to worry about "blowing it". I can honestly say with 100 percent honesty that I have never "Blown a relationship". Ether it works or doesn't but this isn't a fear. Its funny that a guy wrote this! Id like to talk to his ex.

Real Life Emails from Online dating...Good, Bad, Hillarious

These are some of my favorite first messages while online dating. They are not meant to discourage, only entertain! I have deleted the screen names because most of these men are probably still online dating on several sites. I have not edited the words, spelling or grammar so some are a little harder to read. Enjoy xo SG

“You have amazing smile that would light up any room. Would you be open to getting to know a sweet tall Black man ;) What's your name ??? “

-100-year-old man
Woodland Hills- CA - US
Seeks women 18-30


RE: Hey sweetie!

“Hi Sweetie,

I ran into a hot friend of mine at coffee bean today. I think you and him will connect ;)

He is a tall, dark, handsome and A DOCTOR! he used to date a colombian actress but is single now.

You owe me a hunk for this ;)

Ciao,

TheTrendyR”

(I actually Picked up a gay guy) 



“So decided to give this a try since can get really busy with work, gym, laundry :0) (my friend did PR for Jersey Shore and I picked that up!). So I set up my little profile a few days ago and people responded but didn't pay so much attention to that. Liked your pictures and what you wrote though :) Now I think my pics suck! And mostly because my favorite pictures have other people in them and didnt want to put that all out there!! My main one realized have guiness pajama bottoms on! Anyway, thanks ;) Little something about me, used to be an attorney but began hating it. Plus everyone hates lawyers. Moved over to financial field at one of the big investment houses right BEFORE the crash. Now everyone hates us again! But I promise I really am a nice guy!! Well, hope this finds you well and hear back from you if you like my (few) pictures and profile!”

35-year-old man
Woodland Hills- CA – US
Seeks women 21-32

“Seeking Someone Positive

Obviously your profile caught my eye and I wanted to see if there was a connection. It appears that we have a lot in common and I believe I fit your profile. Contact me when you get a chance as I would like to see if there is a chance that we can progress things forward :) “


“RE: Hey sweetie!

I may :)

I met a hot Italian designer at whole foods last night. He is supposed to take to Sushi Nobu tmrw nite. I'll let you know how it goes.”

-TheTrendyR


“'I’m sure youve heard every cliche and if it works for the average girl, then Im pretty sure it wouldnt be much of an icebreaker for you.... So let me just introduce myself. So here goes.... My name is Rodrigo. Why am I writing you? Because like myself we might be trying to meet people out of our normal circle. There's a little bit of a romantic notion in that thought. I dont know if we will ever meet but Im sure it would be fun if we do. I love Trader Joes and love to cook but Im not the best. So tips on fun restaurants will be well appreciated. :^) I'm in LA weekends exploring. I like tennis although I may not be the best and know better to never to try to help anyone with their game. Best to just have fun. If your asking then the answer is, Yes I like to Travel... I appreciate all cultures and love the differences. Being local to Redondo is super however I like to find places that maybe strange or shiny, an adventure of sorts. I am looking for a person that can talk intelligently enough to know that kindess is the highest and most formal education that anyone can have. Best Regards, Rodrigo xxx-xxx-xxxxx”

45-year-old man
El Nido- CA - US
Seeks women 18-50


“I like u'r picture, and i like what u say, and I am interested to know more about u. about me I work a lot, which is why I'm trying this. In general I like doing things that are relaxing most of the week. And /, or go extrem like a snowboarding wknd, And go to my boxing once or twice a week. I like going out for drinks. I skip the LA club scene this days. I'm looking for someone new and exiting cool and fun pearson to b with and hang out with...and travel with . I belive i have many of the qualityies u'r looking for in a man. hope to hear back from u”

39-year-old man
Encino- CA - US
Seeks women 24-35

(NO, I didn’t edit the grammar, this is exactly as sent)


“Your profile says you like to play at the beach. Do you play volleyball down in Manhattan Beach? That's not far from where I play in Hermosa. Well, I liked what you had to say in your profile and I definitely understand having to keep up with work and a busy social schedule. My calendar is pretty packed these days. I've signed up for a few classes on weekday evenings, to try some new things. Anyway, I hope the week's going well for you. Just a couple of days till the weekend:)

Talk to you soon,

P

P.S. I'm a pretty good Texas Hold'Em player. Do you play?”

33-year-old man
Redondo Beach, CA, US
Seeks women 23-32
Active within 24 hours



“Subject: RE: RE: ITS MIKE-HOW ARE YOU
Nice surprise to see a happy pretty face.. how's match going? leave your number if you want to talk or here's mine xxx-xxx-xxxx”

33-year-old man
Mission Viejo, CA, US



“ITS MIKE--
don't be shy..:)”

33-year-old man
Mission Viejo, CA, US



Date received: April 3, 2009
“ITS MIKE--
Like your style & smile :) e-mail me if interested”

33-year-old man
Mission Viejo, CA, US



“Subject: hi
Hi. My name is Michael. How are you doing? I would like to invite you to communicate with me. :)”




Subject: Dear Friend
“Dear Friend,

A very good day to you over there, How is life treating you and your family? My name's are Ojo Uyi Sunny, I am 31 by age lives in thessaloniki in Greece my nationality is nigeria, I saw your request on onlinedatingsite.com and i am interested in on your propsal.

Here is my mobile number +30694831xxxx you can call me if interested or send me a return email.

Do have a wonderful day,

Yours Faithfully,”

31-year-old man
Thessaloníki (salonika), , Greece
Seeks women 18-45

Umm what the heck...

So my girlfriend and I were at Winstons Friday. We each met 27 year old. The guy I was talking to got my number and hers "for business". Its 9:15 pm Saturday night. I just got a multi-person text asking what we were both doing tonight??? Delete.

Online dating...Should I do it Single Girl?

   Wow, newly being single (well...again) has really taken a toll on me. In the name of research for this awesome blog and because I have a hard time saying "no" to any thing fun I have been going out wayyyy too much! For me going out usually involves alcohol. Not that I am an alcoholic or even really enjoy drinking so much, for some reason its just what I do when out at a club/bar/lounge, I mean what else do you do when you go to these places? Even most dates involve wine or cocktails. So, I have been going out with my hot Blondie friends and living it up...Now its Saturday night and I cant even think about going out again...at least until tomorrow.

In general I prefer to be at home most nights of the week, cooking, watching a movie, cuddling on the couch. This is probably how online dating got started. You can only go out boozing soo often. Of course I love going out and having fun with my friends, but if the purpose is meeting potential dates, you can't help but think of the wasted money, time spent getting ready to go out (my favorite part of the night), and energy if the night doesn't produce any promising specimen. Of course shopping through an online catalog in your pjs is soo much easier...OR IS IT?

Friends and clients are always asking me my opinions about online dating...should they try it? I have tried Eharmony, Match.Com (twice) and Jdate, each for short periods of maybe a two or three months at a time, through out my 7 years of living in Los Angeles.  So my input is really not a do it or don't but know what to expect and make sure you are prepared for the time commitment.

First of all, I don't know how many times I have heard that so and so's sister, mother, brother found their soul mate or spouse on online dating. I am sure it happens...hey my own mom met her husband on Yahoo Personals and I think they are truly soul mates.  For me, online dating is a job. Sure, first its all very exciting when your inbox is filled with 1000 emails from mystery men. This is so overwhelming and flattering.  So you read as few as possible, weeding out anyone that doen't fit your "criteria" and get down to a handful that are worth writing back to or gasp... "winking" back at. Basically this process involves inspecting photos and skimming a profile (They all write pretty much the same things).  After writing back and fourth with your potential suitors you will eventually decide to meet a few.

Ladies, make sure you meet for a drink or coffee. DO NOT commit yourself for an entire meal! This is a meet and greet basically to see if there is any chemistry in person and to make sure the other person is actually who they say they are. I will get into horror stories at another time.  So you get cute, go to chosen location to meet and make small talk.  If its a success you can now do a dinner. The problem is you will end up having dates 3 or 4 days a week if you end up going on dates with some of these people and its exhausting and really how can you know if you like someone if you are juggling so many. I get in this situation because with each contact you get some momentum going and its kind of hard to tell someone you are booked with dates for the next two weeks. So you squeeze them in, sometimes bumping out less-desirables. Then you find one you start to like, so you date them and the others fall by the wayside. You spend two months with this person they seem like the man of your dreams and then one day you realize, that maybe you didn't know them that well after all and wonder if its too late to call back date number 127.  Ahhh I am boycotting online dating right now but I wrote up a quick list of pros and cons for those considering it.

Pros to Online Dating

-There is always someone waiting to take you out, so you don't get overly invested in one person at the beginning
-Its an easy way to come up with potential dates
-You get a quick list of the person's stats (If they are honest)
-Its fun to check your email
-The Mystery can be fun and exciting
-After you are dating for a while you can  see if they are still logging in and talking to others


Cons To Online dating

-Riskier, because you have no common connection
-You do not know if there is chemistry until you have invested a bit of time before meeting
-It takes a lot of time to weed out the crazies
-Someone you know may see you on there (ie an ex or co worker)
-Money and time spent looking cute for a ?
-Dealing with turds
-After you are dating for a while you can  see if they are still logging in and talking to others
-After you are dating a while they can see if you are still logging in
-It feels desperate
-When dating someone and you are asked where you met...its not a great story

Places to meet men in LA ...help for my friends, I have done the dirty work.

Okay so I decided to create a rating system for places to meet decent guys in LA. This will be an ongoing list as I visit new or old, or re-named location in LA. Please feel free to add your own too!
Keep in mind the crowd changes based on the night of the week and whats going on in town, or who's promoting so I will let you know what night I'm rating.



Winstons...New night on Fridays at Winstons on Santa Monica Blvd
              Younger crowd aged probably 24-31, Casual, Good M/F ratio. Not so Hollywood, a mix of hipsters, normal people, we were probably some of the oldest people in there. Guys in Flannel Shirts, girls in jeans or black dresses. friendly crowd. I would give ***

Katsuya Brentwood - the bar Fridays ,- Good Looking people. Older men and women. More conservative then Hollywood. When we were there no real hotties. Talked to a couple older guys. One was married for 22 yrs and was showing us pics of his kids. The other was a dentist. not so cute. The bar staff was friendly and when we asked if there was anywhere else around there to grab a drink we were directed to go to Venice or back to Hollywood area. SO if your over Katsuya there really isn't anything around there but Cabo and Qs which we were too over dressed for. I feel like potential is a ***** of meeting good people here but very hit or miss and since its far for e and not near anything I will give it a **

Boa Steakhouse on Sunset - Sat. Nights....Boa is a Scene for sure. Hot girls in short short short shirt/dresses, Super models, Actors, Old guys, ex-Fiances, Call girls. Yes, in one night I encountered all of this. I'm going to give BOA a ***** (best rating) because despite the la/Hollywood crowd. There were a ton of men here all dressed in business or business casual which is a plus. If you sit in lounge or even eat in lounge its really easy to socialize because of the set up. Great people watching if you're bored. My girlfriend met a really nice guy last week. Maybe the coolest guy we have met since living in LA.

Goal, on 3rd - (Went for Lakers Celtics game). a cross between a hollywood hotspot and a sports bar...if you can picture this? Owned by Jerry (Turtle of Entourage). The crowd here is very good looking, 28-40 age range Good Guy/Girl Ratio. Downsides is its tiny and you get pushed around a lot if you don't reserve a table, So definitely get a table or don't go! **** four stars

Red O Mexican Restaurant on Melrose, WeHo - More of a restaurant then a bar scene but its a great crowd! ** Its more table seating so your not going to be able to social easily




Will add more later...going to a wedding...


Bouchon - Bev. Hills
Pretty restaurant but I would not recommend for finding singles. Not one good looking person in the place. Food was pretty good, service just okay. ah only gave it **

Should I go out with Joe Pesce? Polling all readers...

   Dating dilemmas...I think my friends are sick of me asking for advice so I will ask you, my readers...

Please click on the pole, Should I go on a date with Joe Pesce?


I met JP last night, well not the real Joe Pesce but a half Italian-Half Jewish man who had a New York accent despite being raised in Beverly Hills. I often wonder if I am too selective, or not selective enough about the people that I choose to go on dates with so I will state the facts as I know them below and then ask you, my readers, to go on date or not to go on date?

Here are the facts:

-Met JP last night at Red O restaurant (New trendy Mexican joint on Melrose)
-JP is 5'11" and looks like a younger, cuter Joe,
-He referred to me as "trouble"
-JP was at dinner with ten guys whom he played football with in High School, all of which are in their early 40s and never been married.
-He tried to makeout with me outside the restaurant
-Not an actor
-He and his Friends treated me and my two girls to dinner, which was sweet.

To the poles!
XO,
SG

Mail Call

Dear SG,

"I am single girl looking to move to LA
Just wondering how the dating scene is for single girl like me, mid twenties and working in finance...not modeling or acting. I don't want to date would-be actors. I just want to date normal guys. Do they exist in LA. Are there any men that are smart, nice looking and have a career and still single? I'm good looking, but not a model so I am wondering if the competition for singles is too much. I don't want to have to compete against beauty queens. thanks for your advice."

         Dear Not a Model,
         Most of my friends in LA are like you, Mid 20s, successful and cute! They all want to date working non-actors, nice, cute men. Don't be discouraged, but I'm not sure where you meet these men and exactly how many live in LA. I'm told the best place to meet normal guys is Steakhouses and the Beach? Went to BOA last Saturday. There were a lot of men there and a lot of hot girls in short dresses too. Bottom line is yes, there are a ton of hot girls in LA all looking for the same kind of guy as you. I guess you should not move anywhere for the dating potential, move here because you love LA and trust in Fate!

Optimistically Yours,
SG

**email your questions to Singlegirlla@gmail.com and feel free to comment to mail call and all other blogs. I would love your feedback!






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Men: a few tips while creating your online dating profile.

My first pet peeve on Men's online dating profiles is when they have several pictures of themselves posed with other women...its almost as if they are trying to say "Hey women like me, see?!". Why would I want to see you in pictures with tons of other women. We, as women, are immediately going to judge you by the type of women you are with, and what is the point? If the pictures is just that fabulous of you, men, just crop yourself out.



http://www.match.com/


Don't lie, don't lie about your age, or anything else. There is no strategy here. Its not like if a woman doesn't want to date an old guy, you are going to win her over by letting her get to know your personality via email first, that when you meet in person she will excuse your lying and age!


Back to the photo thing, don't use pictures from 1980. We will figure it out when we finally meet. Why not know if we are attracted to you in this decade?


Blurry Pictures, Black and whites, Sunglass-shots, they all just look sketchy.


Shirt off pics. Okay maybe one if you are doing some sort of sport or its a beach scene. I'm just speaking for my self here, but I think its a little creepy when your main profile pic is you, half naked, taking a shot of yourself from your blackberry in a mirror.  Its much better to put up real-life shots. If you have no real photos, then pay someone one to take it for you. Just a suggestion.


Don't just say what you think women want to hear. I think 99% of online profiles state all or some of the following. Its just unoriginal sounding:


I am very Close to my family

I love to travel

I have a picture up of me holding a baby

I enjoy wine tasting

I'm looking to find "The one"

I am new to Match.com (even though I saw your profile up last year after my last breakup)

I'm not sure about the online dating thing, but thought I would give it a try

I am funny/trying to be funny/want to date someone who is funny

I'm spontaneous


Hope my tips help!

XO
SG

Never Except Strangers on Facebook and Other Important Lessons...

I won't Deny that I am an optimist and believe in fate, so hey the man of my dreams could pick me out on Facebook and start writing to me, right?!  I am usually a pretty private person so make it a habit of never adding strangers to my facebook, but if we have a few friends in common I may just add you to be nice. My FBboyfriend first added me a few weeks ago. He was very mysterious. No pics and only about 40 friends, but they all looked pretty normal and we had a couple friends in common. So I was polite and sent a nice email asking if we had met since he had no photo but I could see we had some distant friends in common from my college days. He explained that he didn't have photos up yet as it was a new facebook, of course, and that he was in New York on business and did not have access to photos, but that he did in fact know one of my friends. He stated that he needed to create a new FB page in order to avoid his TWO stalkers...this should have been a flag...but okay. I questioned the girl we knew in common and she thought he was a guy that she had gone to high school with but he clearly wasn't and we both decided to delete his sketchy profile from our accepted friends lists.

My FBboyfriend was persistent and asked why I had deleted him, so  I explained that my page was personal and private and that his seemed sketchy. He then added a photo and said he didn't want to be sketchy.  To my amazement this new boyfriend was HOT. What had I done!? I deleted this hot guy who obviously wanted to get to know me. So after exchanging a few flirty emails I deemed it okay to re-friend him. Our email exchanges continued and were funny. He was a New Yorker turned sports agent who now lived in LA. Our personalities seemed to "click" and eventually the sneaky devil got into my cell phone. Our emails became texting and I officially had a FBBoyfriend.  I have to admit this was very out of character for me but all very mysterious and intriguing. I was hooked. FBboyfriend invited me to a highly sought after Celtics/Lakers playoff game. I was excited. The only catch, the game was in Boston. Normally, I would not accept to go across the country with someone I had never met but thought, "Hey I'm from Boston, worst case he is a killer and all my family and friends are there to escape". I agreed to travel to the game but we decided it may be a good idea to meet in person first.

MEETING MY FBBOYFRIEND LIVE...how exciting. This mystery would be ending. FBboyfriend and I decided to meet in the middle. I thought he should drive to me, but since he would be treating me to a trip across the country I could meet him half way. We met in Brentwood and I hopped into his car. He was cute in person. We drove to a tiny dive bar down the street. My FBboyfriend had warned me that he was shorter than me...I just hadn't pictured by how much. Guy had to be a foot shorter than me, I'm 5'8". But hey, again, personality can mean a lot, I don't discriminate. He was funny and we went into the bar and had a couple drinks and talked. The conversation flowed and he seemed pretty normal and sweet. We were having a good time and the bar was getting more and more crowded. He asked if I wanted to go somewhere else so I agreed. I have to admit it was pretty funny seeing him try to get the bartender's attention from where he stood. Upon getting back into his car he asked if I felt like just going to his place a few blocks away. Hey, I thought we had met in the middle, but that's besides the point.  I hesitated because I don't think its really appropriate for someone to take you to their home on the first meeting. He convinced me that he had a full bar and we could just talk there and it would all be PG. "Don't you trust me?" he asked. SO, I agreed. He told me he also had another apartment that he was subletting in Bev. Hills. His Santa Monica place looked old, dirty and like a dorm. He had a guy roommate and a soap-scummy bathroom.  I'm being harsh here but this was not what I was expecting. I guess I am used to dating older guys and for me living in a clean/nice environment is really important. The artwork in his room, I'm not exaggerating, was a family guy framed poster, a painted dolphin scene, you know the one, and an abstract painting that was tolerable. He also had a collection of joker figurines. His full bar consisted of a bottle of tequila and some margarita mix that he pulled out of his closet. I asked why he stored liquor in the closet and he simply explained that his roommate's best friend was an alcoholic.
FBboyfriend poured me a strong Margarita in a plastic cup.  I didn't realize until later that he was drinking water. We put on some Dave Matthews, which we both enjoy, and were talking. None of the absurdities that I have previously mentioned really were enough of a red flag to send me running. So I was just taking this all in. Maybe because he was moving and only had lived there 6 months, maybe that's why he lived like this. I tend to make excuses, try not to judge....and hey these are Lakers/Celtics tickets, a free trip home and possibly the man of my dreams...with a little work.

Okay, so I was a little buzzed at this point. We are chatting listening to DMB in his dormroom...err I mean bedroom. This was when the night turned for the worst! FBboyfriend was staring at my feet and asked me if I had ever done a trade. "A trade like for what?" I asked. In some words FBboyfriend asked if I would wear shoes if he bought them for me. Like these hot red stilettos he had seen. I said uhh... I guess. He asked if a guy had ever taken me shopping. I said no. He said he wanted to take me shopping....he just wanted to show me how to do something...a 30 second something... it would be a great trick for me to know and then I could have his credit card to go on a shopping spree..."OMG!!!! I am not a prostitute. I am a classy girl!"  I wanted to tell him that from the looks of things he needed to use his credit card to get a housekeeper, but I refrained. This blind date was officially dead. How do I end up in these situations? I should of ran a long time ago!

There is no such a thing as "benefit of a doubt" in dating!

Lessons learned:
Don't add strangers on Facebook
Don't ever trust a guys that says "Trust me" or "You are going to like me"
If a guy wants to buy you shoes...there is an ulterior motive!

Who is Single girl...and Introduction into the hell that is dating in LA

Welcome to my blog. To preface, I am not looking for sympathy, if only to make other girls out there feel like they are not alone and if you can't relate you will at least be really thankful to not be me! I think the girls I work with are either sick of hearing my stories every morning-after or they think I'm a real piece of work. Either way, they persuaded me to archive my experiences in dating in this blog. Maybe it will bring me clarity of life?

I think its important before you read further that you have a frame of reference about me. I am not some homely, broke, baby momma trying to find some rich old man to take care of me. I own my own business, I'm financial independent. I'm probably an LA 7 and a 9 in most other places in the country looks wise. I don't know, its hard to rate yourself. I also know about the RULES, He's Just Not That Into Me, Why Men Love Bitches, Flirt Texting and every other book out there that I have purchased to try and shed some light on the question of why I just can not find a successful, nice, handsome, fun guy. I mean, I think I'm the total package I just want to meet a good match for me. Why god, why?

So I think I am a professional dater. I get lots of dates. Set ups, Online dating, people I meet out. I even called to inquire about a match maker but that was a little out of my budget. Patty wanted 10gs to match me with millionaires. I don't really need a millionaire just a good job and some ambition is a real turn on. I have nicknamed my dates to protect them in the event they may change!? Read on to hear about  Diva Mega Mix, FiveSix,  TheTrader, MR.Confidence, MR. "I think you've got this one", and Dad?, to name a few!